If you’ve read any number of young adult books, it comes as no surprise to find that there is often some kind of romantic plot/subplot within the text. Since I write YA books, there is some expectation of that in my stories as well. I plan to have (at least) one in my current project. I have my main character, A, and she is eventually going to wind up with boy Z.
Already I’ve got several little scenes of them falling for each other, but the more I thought about them riding off together at the end of the series, the more my gut was telling me something was off. I didn’t question if they would remain together (they definitely will), but I couldn’t see what their lives would be like at all.
I’m not one of those authors who knows the entire future of my characters post-book. I don’t really feel a need to know, but I do need whatever conclusion I give them in the book to feel right, to feel true. When I started digging through my own brain, I realized the problem I was having with A and Z wasn’t what was missing after the action of the books, but what was missing within the books.
I’ve never pictured A and Z kissing.
When I figured that out, other things became clear to me. They prefer to be touching if they can be, and hugging is their favorite. The love to laugh and banter, they help each other through trauma and pain, and by the end of the series they are deeply in love.
So why no kissing?
And then it was like a lightening bolt struck me on the head: A and Z are asexual. Everything fell into place when I used this word to describe them.
In case you don’t know, I am gray-sexual or gray-ace, which is under the umbrella of asexuality. (If you want more detailed info on what all of that means, click HERE.) But it had never, not once, occurred to me that my main character and her final love interest could possibly be ace. I’d considered it with other characters, but not them.
I had been taking the sexuality (implied or explicit) found in the majority of YA love stories and applying it to A and Z, expecting them to fall in line. But why should they?
It seems like such an easy and obvious conclusion to come to, considering I’m ace myself, but it took me a while. I’m glad my characters, or my inner ace, put up enough fuss to show me where I was going wrong with A and Z’s love story.
Hopefully I’ll get to share them, in all their ace glory, with you eventually.
For more information on asexuality, please visit
The Asexual Visibility and Education Network.
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